Woman! As soon as the word is uttered what comes to mind is a home maker and to some extent a professional. But does anyone think of her as a individual or a living soul? Every time a woman travels to a new place means, she has to renovate her life and
life style completely. Because each country or state she visits demands a new life style, a new culture and of course, new people. Life demands so much from a single soul, in other words, saying good bye to one place
and welcoming the new place and start a new home from scratch is definitely not an easy task. It really requires one to be very confident, flexible and adventurous. And if a working woman has to travel every second year to a different country due to a job change of her husband, then her life becomes a chaos. She might have to sacrifice her job, her life style and get settled wherever her family demands. She will become dependent financially, which is very difficult to accept for an independent women. As someone who controls finance also controls freedom (believe me, itâ€™s my personal experience). A woman at home becomes so insignificant just because she does not earn. A simple example to narrate, you give a call to your husbandâ€™s office, the universal answer is `I am busy, Watch some movie or go to your friends placeâ€™. Likewise an internet or a telephone breakdown. In her home country, an internet breakdown is just a simple phone call and is rectified. But being an expat, where internet acts as the main economical source of communication with family and friends, it becomes a difficult task of rectifying it, as it involves several attempts to get the correct person to solve the problem and mainly deal in a new language. It might take few days for rectification, but by then you will be broken down of communication with family and friends which makes you feel very depressed and down. Does anyone understand that time plays the same role in everyoneâ€™s life. Does anyone uplift the importance of a homemakerâ€™s time not being utilized? She become so helpless, as the situation does not change and she needs to change her reactions to the situations. These situations make her dependent on materialistic things and become so helpless so lifeless.
Yes, now the question arises whether all these sacrifices are noticed or repaid? No never, but amongst all the happenings she in turn lose her identity and becomes frustrated. Her vision stands nowhere among all the happenings and changes. Does she prioritize her happiness? Definitely not! Especially when she has children she will feel that it is her duty to keep her family happy. She develops a feel that if the family is happy then she is also happy. Life demands to play so many roles, a loving mother, a responsible wife, and many other subordinate characters. We always assume when we are away from home country we need to be more responsible in relations and give up all our happiness for one reason that we are away from home.
Here, we make wrong assumptions, because unless we know what is our real happiness and our vision of life and help ourselves , we will never be able to guide or give our family the best. So we need to pass a message to all the expat women to always keep their identity . And always choose a job ( by either you or your husband) ,which supports your life and not change your lifestyle and principles as per the job requirements. We also need to concentrate on our goals, our visions and seek help from our family in fulfilling them. No matter if working women or a homemaker, see what your life demands and try to involve yourself in some activities, some volunteering, meet people, enhance your talent and keep your brains in constant motion. Do not just be happy with the say “ Behind a successful man, there is a woman“ But in turn try to change for good and put yourself into action and make the saying “ A successful man is always accompanied with a womanâ€™â€™
Written BY KK